Meetings for more safety, confidence, influence, buy-in and accountability
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Under 5 minutes, test a framework of best practices to optimize your meetings, especially when pressure is on
Meetings: more safety, confidence, influence, buy-in and accountability
Summary: Under 5 minutes, test a framework of best practices to optimize your meetings, especially when pressure is on
Main Outcome: In your meetings, build more (psychological) safety, confidence, influence, buy-in, and accountability
Top Benefit(s): More impactful meetings, You are perceived as a better Leader; Less time to follow up on actions
Next Steps: For your next meeting with high stakes, adjust the proposed framework into a relevant agenda and rate yourself and the results against it
Duration: <5Â minutes.
Target Audience: Anybody willing to improve the ROI of their meetings and reduce stress and anxiety when the stakes are high
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Advice on setting realistic and achievable goals, even in high-pressure environments.
Overcoming Anxiety at Work
Summary: Strategies for reducing workplace anxiety and creating a secure environment for all employees
Main Outcome: Reduced workplace anxiety
Top Benefit(s): Improved overall mental health and productivity
Next Steps: Implement stress-reduction techniques and monitor their effectiveness
Time to Complete: 30 minutes
Target Audience: All employees, Mental health advocates
Why it works
Why it works 
Before:
Many clients report feeling more triggered when meeting with others, especially with key stakeholders or with high stakes or potential hard discussions…
When we ask our clients about safety and its impact on these triggers, at first they usually don’t relate that much…For them, it is all about forcing a change in their environment and spending more time, and money on it. But when they understand that 1) most of their anxiety, stress, fears, and inability to deliver their “Should” is driven by their Reptilian Brain triggering because it believes your Survival is at risk and that 2) Safety is the main driver to get it out of Survival Mode then they pay much more attention to Safety and usually are eager to understand how to build more of it.
After:
This post is meant to propose practical strategies that under 5 minutes can increase your feeling and level of safety when meeting with others.
Of course, winning 50 M$ at the lottery would build a lot of safety and you would approach your CEO with less stress but the strategies we propose here are meant to be 100% under your control!
With safety, less trigger for less time, therefore, less stress, more focus with more lightness so you feel better in meetings, especially when the pressure is on, and get better outcomes (more buy-in, commitment, support, influence…).
Top Strategies to ace your meetings
For more strategies and examples for each strategy, refer to the attachment!
TO DO
Set a 5 minute timer
Pick one of the proposed strategies
Follow the script and think about your next opportunity to apply it
As you visualize the experience, focus on:
- how you feel below your throat as this is the language of safety (Reptilian Brain)
- on the incremental and relative change for your emotions: it is more a marathon than a sprint
- on what you have control over (what you say, your intention, how you listen…), which excludes others
Act on it now (book a meeting, send a note…) to commit yourself and anchor the memory at body level for a stickier habit
NOT DO
Stay in your head! (Safety is an emotion therefore to be found in your guts and heart)
Forget that others have a Reptilian Brain that needs safety too (good news: Safety is contagious and the safety you build for yourself also helps others)
Spend too much time preparing… the value is in the doing and the emotional experience
Don’t disqualify it yet if I don’t feel a major change after the first time
Multi-task when I do any of the strategies
Deny or play down the power of my Reptilian Brain (remember it controls most of my stress)
Example
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Your next 2 weeks stepsÂ
Start NOW or schedule your first try:
- Apply TO DO right away (<30 minutes)
- Once done, decide your commitment for the next 2 weeks
- How are you feeling right after? Compared to before? What was the value for you?
- What to adjust for you to commit for 2 weeks?
- Visualize the next time you apply it and how you would like to feel
- Celebrate that you have tried something new
Build your habit (-> more practice -> more results)
- Model: After [OTHER CURRENT HABIT] and at/when [TIME], I will [NEW HABIT] in [LOCATION].
- Example: When I sit at my desk for the first time in the morning, I visualize myself completing one strategy during a meeting with stakes and feeling good about it; then I create a timeslot in my calendar with the details about this strategy; I read them and visualize myself practicing the strategy and feeling safer and less stress and happier about the outcome of the meeting as a result.
- Print your sticky habit
Total time:
6 X 5 min = 30m in 2 weeks
How you measure success:Â
Have applied at least 6X times in the next 2 weeks
What value you can expect:Â
Feel safer; Less stress or internal noise; You feel more efficient in meetings (more buy-in, commitment, support…) and that you are building stronger relationships
How to get started:Â
Print and fill your Habit template then apply right away
With more time
Apply more often
Insightful? Potential positive changes for you?
What are you willing to commit as next steps?
Meet The Author
Ludo Pasquereau
The Founder of Wiser Sooner Coaching
Founder of Wiser Sooner Coaching, Ludo is an ICF Professional Coach (PCC) with over 25 years of experience in leadership roles for project management and business development in engineering-focused industries. Most of Ludo's clients develop the skills and confidence to improve their performance and be
more authentic under pressure, at work or at home.
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